After the initial splutter of the first part, next one in the series has a little blush of rose swept on it.
Oh I can already see the expressions changing on my dear readers' face from a smile to a raised eyebrow(reaching at an angle one can best possibly manage :P ) that say.. 'Ummm...what is this all about..Makeup!!! Let's skip this!' or 'We did not expect this mushy topic after the last post'. Come on!! Dilemmas are all spread across a whole gamut of situations. In this particular one, I am going to talk about the dilemma of under-selling yourself or over-selling to somebody to whom you are totally smitten about.Since,there can not be a specific Dilemmist to be pointed out,I will say 'The Dilemmist' is 'one among us'.
Cool wind caressed past Shubhan as he sat in the auto thinking about the girl he has talked to in last few days in college.Ruhi was not pretty in traditional sense or with hot airs, but surely attractive at least to him(now).Opposed to all the blabber about finding your lady love when in college,Shubhan was rather unlucky and he has stopped caring about it now. Even though others have not been lucky much, one can not feel happy about it.Ruhi was in college with him from past two years, but she being coy and in different friend group, they never got to interact much except rare exchange of class notes. Problem with Shubhan was not talking to girls but talking to them as such to make an impression. He dreads that he bores them and just could not bring himself close to giggle at some random joke which he doesn’t find any funny. How people do that, are the jokes really funny and he is a bore or they just pretend, was a mystery unsolved till date for him!!
Recently, he got talking to Ruhi as they were in the same group for a project and yes,he was happy with that(who would mind a hard working girl in group, while you roam around :P).Talks started with project planning and continued with discussions on Google docs on sidelines of design diagrams. There is nothing called love at first sight(at least he was not a believer in that), and he was neither head over heels over her but yes,Shubhan liked those conversations and was sure not to tread along the friend line only.The dilemma he faced now was how to put himself forward, whether to under-sell or oversell(yes, I am talking like the marketing people :P ).
I know first reaction would be 'Just be yourself, dude' but do not we admit that we all can do anything but to be brutally honest specially with the one you have a soft corner for. We usually go for either one of the options. And Shubhan knew that he has to chose something as he wanted some special attention :D
Over selling has one big disadvantage that you project yourself as one big shot and exceed the expectations of a person many folds and see yourself being made a butt of jokes if you have overdone it and there is nothing worse than that. But yes, it does arouse interest of anybody in you and you cannot just go unnoticed. And if you actually go close to those expectations, you are just awesome. B-)
Strength of underselling is that even if you don’t get what you want, there is nothing lost. But if you play the cards well ,there is win-win situation waiting for you at the other end. Setting the default level as 0 and pouring water on the normal expectations from a normal person, does not seem much intelligent decision but in the long run if you play along and exceed the lower-set-expectations, even if it’s not a big thing, you surely get some brownie points (It is very difficult to jump across when the pole is set high in high-jump, isn’t it ?).There is always scope for showing improvement here and get the other person engaged in trying to knowing you. On the other hand, Going unnoticed and termed as bore, not worth it, nothing-much-to-know-about can be a pitfall for some who are actually duds :-P.
There is no conclusion on it as you cannot just subjectively discuss the whole concept and make it objective and answer it as first option or the other.But here,Shubhan has to figure it out what he wants or may be just by pretending that he is being just himself, he would be going for either one subconsciously. :-)
Oh I can already see the expressions changing on my dear readers' face from a smile to a raised eyebrow(reaching at an angle one can best possibly manage :P ) that say.. 'Ummm...what is this all about..Makeup!!! Let's skip this!' or 'We did not expect this mushy topic after the last post'. Come on!! Dilemmas are all spread across a whole gamut of situations. In this particular one, I am going to talk about the dilemma of under-selling yourself or over-selling to somebody to whom you are totally smitten about.Since,there can not be a specific Dilemmist to be pointed out,I will say 'The Dilemmist' is 'one among us'.
Cool wind caressed past Shubhan as he sat in the auto thinking about the girl he has talked to in last few days in college.Ruhi was not pretty in traditional sense or with hot airs, but surely attractive at least to him(now).Opposed to all the blabber about finding your lady love when in college,Shubhan was rather unlucky and he has stopped caring about it now. Even though others have not been lucky much, one can not feel happy about it.Ruhi was in college with him from past two years, but she being coy and in different friend group, they never got to interact much except rare exchange of class notes. Problem with Shubhan was not talking to girls but talking to them as such to make an impression. He dreads that he bores them and just could not bring himself close to giggle at some random joke which he doesn’t find any funny. How people do that, are the jokes really funny and he is a bore or they just pretend, was a mystery unsolved till date for him!!
Recently, he got talking to Ruhi as they were in the same group for a project and yes,he was happy with that(who would mind a hard working girl in group, while you roam around :P).Talks started with project planning and continued with discussions on Google docs on sidelines of design diagrams. There is nothing called love at first sight(at least he was not a believer in that), and he was neither head over heels over her but yes,Shubhan liked those conversations and was sure not to tread along the friend line only.The dilemma he faced now was how to put himself forward, whether to under-sell or oversell(yes, I am talking like the marketing people :P ).
I know first reaction would be 'Just be yourself, dude' but do not we admit that we all can do anything but to be brutally honest specially with the one you have a soft corner for. We usually go for either one of the options. And Shubhan knew that he has to chose something as he wanted some special attention :D
Over selling has one big disadvantage that you project yourself as one big shot and exceed the expectations of a person many folds and see yourself being made a butt of jokes if you have overdone it and there is nothing worse than that. But yes, it does arouse interest of anybody in you and you cannot just go unnoticed. And if you actually go close to those expectations, you are just awesome. B-)
Strength of underselling is that even if you don’t get what you want, there is nothing lost. But if you play the cards well ,there is win-win situation waiting for you at the other end. Setting the default level as 0 and pouring water on the normal expectations from a normal person, does not seem much intelligent decision but in the long run if you play along and exceed the lower-set-expectations, even if it’s not a big thing, you surely get some brownie points (It is very difficult to jump across when the pole is set high in high-jump, isn’t it ?).There is always scope for showing improvement here and get the other person engaged in trying to knowing you. On the other hand, Going unnoticed and termed as bore, not worth it, nothing-much-to-know-about can be a pitfall for some who are actually duds :-P.
There is no conclusion on it as you cannot just subjectively discuss the whole concept and make it objective and answer it as first option or the other.But here,Shubhan has to figure it out what he wants or may be just by pretending that he is being just himself, he would be going for either one subconsciously. :-)
4 comments:
Whats the point of writing this ?
Did you actually write that in one day. You are no less than a psychologist.
ya,in one hour or so..
But the actual point is little lost here I guess.. I am now myself confused.. :P
see i told you... i couldn't find any point , in your writing this..
it was just like you wrote it because you had to write it :P
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